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How To Be Happy For The Holidays Series: Day 7

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Happy For The Holidays

Well folks, tomorrow is Christmas Eve! Every year, just when I think I've got all my Christmas shopping done and gifts wrapped up, I get antsy and go out last-minute to buy a little bit more! I need to go back a couple of days and read up on how to deal with buyer's remorse in Day 5 of my series! At any rate, below is our 2nd annual holiday card that I also whipped up last-minute! We never wanted to send out a holiday card until we had kids...and then we had Beau two years ago, and he most definitely counts!

*This year, Beau insisted  that he get his very own holiday card. He is so spoiled, but too cute to say 'no' to...so here they are! 

Ok, so here's the real story--we tried our hardest to take a last-minute family photo with Beau, and he would not cooperate! Couple that with the fact that we also took this photo without a photographer--thank you Mr. Tripod for helping us out! We did our best to take a family photo, but it just didn't pan out, so we picked our favorite with just the two of us. I felt guilty leaving him out, so I decided to get creative and make Beau his own card with a photo that I took of him eagerly anticipating the unveiling of his birthday present on Dec. 15!

Below are some funny outtakes from our attempts to get a full family photo with an uncooperative "child" and a tripod for a photographer. 

I thought it would be fitting to include some outtakes and the story behind our family photo session gone wrong, because the final installment of my Happy For The Holidays series is all about Perfectionism // High Expectations // Let Downs. As you can see, we tried to get the perfect photo of the three of us, I most definitely had high expectations, and we ended up feeling let down--clearly pictured by our blank stares in the final shot, where Beau decided to bow out and go take a nap! 


Check out Holiday Hang-ups 1-6 Below!

*If you haven't already, check out Day 1Day 2Day 3Day 4Day 5, and Day 6 of the series!


Holiday Hang-up No. 7

At the start of December, you decided that this year was going to be different. You were going to get your shopping done early, send out the perfect holiday card, make an appearance at every event you were invited to, and make that special dish that you didn't make last year. The big day is almost here, and your check-lists have check-lists. There are so many places to run, last-minute gifts to pick up, and people to see, but no matter how many boxes you check, it seems like there is still so much left to be done.

Simple Solution 7

INTENTIONS, NOT EXPECTATIONS

While listening to my favorite--The Rich Roll Podcast, I heard something from one of his interviewees that has really stuck with me. It went something like this:

We should go through life with intention, not expectations. Having expectations for how we believe things should be or will pan out diminishes our bandwidth and narrows the realm of possibility.

To me that means to simply do what you do! Instead of forcing things into a box, go about your daily activities and work towards becoming a better person each and every day with intention. Without expectations, the possibilities are infinite!

Toss the list

I'm a check-list person. With a busy mind and busy life, it just feels "safer" to have things written down somewhere (and a second list recorded on my phone)! There's no better feeling in the world than completing a task and checking it off the list! Dusty encouraged me to toss my lists and just let life come to me, and it was a struggle! I'm still working on not creating so many lists, but I will say, it is liberating and truly makes you realize that the important things will not be forgotten and will get done, and the unimportant will simple fall by the wayside and won't stress you out to look at anymore.

Let Go

Another phrase that gets me through hectic days is 'Let Go and Let God.' Sometimes you just have to give up the reins and surrender. Give up the control! Sometimes that means not hovering over the hubs to make sure he's chopping the carrots the "right way," and sometimes that might mean asking for help and delegating tasks when you're in over your head. Just remember to ask in the right way.

Laugh

When your perfect holiday plans don't go as planned, remember how you're going to feel a year from now. Remind yourself that you're going to look back and laugh--so why not just start laughing now?! When you leave that special dish in the oven too long, the dog won't cooperate for a family photo, that last present doesn't come in the mail on time, or the family gathering is a flop, sometimes all you can do is have a good laugh! If it's too hard to laugh at yourself, try watching 'Christmas Vacation' and it'll will cure any funk you're in!

Practice Gratitude

When all else fails, practice gratitude! Many of the "problems" we have here in America are just "first-world" problems. It can help to gain a little perspective and think about the rest of the world--many people don't have families to be with or home's to go to. The simple act of saying 'thank you' to someone will make you both feel good! Try spreading good vibes by "paying it forward" next time you're in the drive-thru at Starbucks, and you just might start a chain reaction!


Holiday Hang-ups Around Our Home

*Each day I'll also be sharing some "holiday hang-ups" around our home—because if there's one thing we love to do, it's decorate for Christmas.

I absolutely love wrapping presents, so I had to share a photo of my favorite wrapping paper that I found this year! It's made by a stationery designer, Sugar Paper, being carried at Target--check them out for cute paper goods! I love this paper because it's so classic (and because I'm a sucker for great fonts)! At times I feel like the age-old phrase, 'Merry Christmas' is becoming more diluted and replaced by more "politically correct" terms like 'Happy Holidays.' I'm all for political correctness, but I'm also not afraid to keep Christ in Christmas! 

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Below are two ceramic Santa figurines that Dusty and I painted a few years ago, believe it or not! We were pretty happy with how they turned out--and this is one example of having zero expectations and being pretty impressed with ourselves! The key was the antiquing medium that we rubbed on them after they were painted to fill in all of the cracks and crevices and give them a more defined look! (Mine is the top Santa with the bag full of puppies--of course, and Dusty's is the one below!)

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This final photo is of our chalkboard wall in our basement where I like to work on my hand-lettering, and usually like to come up with something seasonal and festive for each holiday! I would have like to add some more embellishment, but, again, things aren't exactly the way you want them to be when you try to make them perfect! Looking on the bright side, though, the chalkboard could be sitting there blank--but I do my best to keep it fresh!

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Live Light, Travel Light, Spread The Light, Be The Light

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There is no such thing as perfect, so when you aim for perfection, you will inevitably fall short. The more you plan and expect things to play out a certain way, the more risk there is of being let down. Don't beat yourself up! Be proactive and learn from your mistakes, and remind yourself, 'better luck next year!' For me, that entails planning ahead to hire a photographer and a dog trainer for our family photos! I kid, I kid! 

This Christmas and holiday season, remember to live light, travel light, spread the light, and be the light. Step into life and let it take you for a ride, with the intention to simply be a beacon of positively contagious energy! You might be surprised at the things that will happen that you never even expected! 

I want to wish you all a Very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Enjoy Every Moment!

Designed For Your Lifestyle,

Erin 

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How To Be Happy For The Holidays Series: Day 6

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Erin Stanczyk | Lifestyle Design | eat.move.rest. | HOW TO STAY HAPPY FOR THE HOLIDAYS SERIES: DAY 6

Happy For The Holidays

Yesterday, a friend dropped by a holiday package that I just had to share with you all, because it fits in so perfectly with today's Holiday Hang-up No.6: Busyness // Overworking + Overcommiting // Burnout! Melissa and her team at Blooms & Bouquets, an event production company (check them out--they rock!), put together this thoughtful and creative holiday spa gift package! There's no better way to unwind and decompress during the crazy-busy holiday season than an at-home spa experience with scents of lavender and rose wafting in the air!

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In other news, it was Beau's 2nd birthday on the 15th, and I just had to share an adorable snapshot I snagged! Again, it was a fitting event to tie in with this blog post, because Dusty and I made a point to schedule time in the evening to celebrate our baby's birthday with a big ole present (a look-alike stuffed Bernese Mountain Dog--he's a serious softy when it comes to toys) and shower him with lots of kale dog treats--because what other kind would I get my pet?! I put his gift in a box and filled it with dog treats and it sat on the kitchen island all day while he waited patiently for it--and you better believe he knew it was for him! Dusty and I love to make a big deal out of things that might seem silly to some, but it's one way to take time out of our busy, sometimes stressful days, to anticipate a fun night at home and enjoy each other's company!

*If you haven't already, check out Day 1Day 2Day 3Day 4, and Day 5 of the series!

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Holiday Hang-up 6

You’re working longer hours to be able to pay for everyone’s Christmas presents, and short days make you overly anxious to just get home and get into something cozy. But before you get home, you have to swing by the grocery store to pick up extra food and a bottle of wine to bring to your friend’s Christmas party. Easier said than done! During the holiday season, it doesn’t matter what time of day it is or where you’re going, you can’t avoid lines. Traffic is backed up at every intersection, the grocery store is full of people with lists of ingredients they can’t forget to pick up to make that special once-a-year dish, and it’s faster to park and run into Starbucks than to go through the drive-thru! Your Facebook is full of invites to holiday shindigs that you don’t want to miss out on, and this year you have to go to your family’s and your in-laws for Christmas. When does life slow down?!

Simple Solution 6
Unwind with an at-home spa day!

Unwind with an at-home spa day!

Routine

If you feel like you’ve been running around like a chicken with its head cut off, my advice is to start penciling in some down time. It can be difficult to start a new routine without some discipline, so try setting yourself a reminder on your phone. I started a morning routine that I’ve been doing pretty solidly this entire past year, and nothing has changed me more! I’m saving my morning routine for another blog post, and I encourage you to come up with your own morning or evening routine! Do things that are truly important to you—draw, read, write, listen to a podcast, meditate, workout, pray, take a bubble bath, do yoga, get a pedicure with a friend. Self-care is not a bad thing—rather than thinking of it as being selfish, think of it as being self-full! Stress is going to creep in, but it’s important to decompress before it builds and becomes unmanageable, leading to anxiety and depression.

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Quiet Time

All of the chaos, noise, and running around can lead to chronic, low-grade stress that can end up wreaking havoc on your health if you don't take the time to slow down and unwind. I try to incorporate some quiet time into my day where I can just think, meditate, and pray. A phone app that I love to use is HeadSpace. If you're new to meditation, or just the thought of sitting still for more than 5 minutes, this app will do wonders for you! These guided meditation tracks are the perfect way to really get centered, weed through what's really going on inside, accomplish daily tasks more efficiently, and tackle bigger goals with less bumps in the road.

SANITY > MONEY

If you’re working extra-long hours by choice, but it’s just stressing you out, you’re eventually going to build up resentment and stress, and begin to dread Christmas time every year. If you set your budget or agreed with your family to make gifts (sage advice from Holiday Hang-up No.5), then maybe the extra hours won’t be as necessary! Check-in with yourself and evaluate whether it’s worth losing out on relaxing time at home—your sanity is much more important than money. 

When life gets crazy-busy, this is my retreat!

When life gets crazy-busy, this is my retreat!

BE SELECTIVE

If you’re like me, you feel like you’re missing out if you don’t go to every event you’re invited to. Recently, though, I’ve been getting really good at setting boundaries. Decide what’s important to you, and how you’re going to feel the next morning. Getting invited to go out with old friends for a night of bar-hopping may sound like fun, but you may get yourself into a situation where you’re out too late and it throws off the plans you had made for the next day. Try saying ‘no’ to that one, and make plans to go for brunch the next day.

On the other hand, that Christmas show at the event center downtown might actually be fun to go to after a dinner date with your special someone. This sounds like something to say ‘yes’ to, and the next morning you’ll be reminiscing about how amazing the show was and be happy you have energy and feel great!

ReTreat

Do Less! A lot of times, I love nothing more than just cozying up and watching a Christmas movie at home. Aah, the fine art of doing nothing! Trust me, you might feel like you’re missing out if you don’t go to every event, but you’re not! The next morning, you’ll already have moved on, feeling less stressed, more energized, and ready to take on the day. Remember, there is a difference between being busy and being productive—just because you’re always busy doesn’t mean necessarily mean you’re being productive!


Holiday Hang-ups Around Our Home

*Each day I'll also be sharing some "holiday hang-ups" around our home—because if there's one thing we love to do, it's decorate for Christmas.

Below is an up-close photo of Beau's birthday present that I just had to share, because wrapping gifts is one of my favorite pleasures! It's a fun way to be merry and stress-free! I used kraft paper, double-sided tape (a must), some white paper ribbon, a cute "Love" tag that I saved from last year (the hoarding comes in handy!), and tied some bells on, just to get the pup extra psyched! 

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Below is a birch log that I had Dusty hang above our couch in the basement shortly after we moved in two years ago, and it's stayed up ever since! I thought it would be a fun way to change up the decor with the seasons, and for Christmas I like to hang these cute paper snowflakes, pinecones, and glittery ornaments, and wrap the log in tiny, twinkling wire lights--perfect lighting for watching movies!

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Erin Stanczyk | Lifestyle Design | eat.move.rest. | HOW TO STAY HAPPY FOR THE HOLIDAYS SERIES: DAY 6

See that unpainted ceramic Santa below? That's what I'm talking about when I say Do Less! We've had a tote full of half-painted and some completely unpainted Christmas ceramics, and it stressed me out every year that we would never get around to painting them. Then I realized how awesome they actually look just as they are! Problem solved!

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POWER THROUGH

As much as we may want to be at home doing less, there are going to be events you're obligated to go to. Sometimes you just have to power through--but be sure and do it with a smile on your face! Make a deal with yourself to take a personal health day after the new year, say, in February, when winter really starts to drag. Better yet, plan a relaxing vacation where you can veg out and practice the art of doing nothing!

Stay tuned for the seventh and final installation of my 7 Holiday Hang-ups + 7 Simple Solutions. In No. 7, I'll discuss: Perfectionism // High Expectations // Let Downs.

Designed For Your Lifestyle,

Erin

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